Being single, like everything else in life, has its pros and cons. It’s easy to feel lonely if you’re the only single person in your friend group. Even though relationships have long been considered the “ideal” by some, there are dozens of lessons you can learn from being single and reasons being single makes you more independent. Being capable of standing on your own two feet when you're in a relationship may even make your relationship stronger.
- You’re The Only One Responsible For You
Although you should always be your own number one priority (relationship or not), being single means that you don’t have to worry about anyone else as much as yourself. While you'll still worry about your family and friends when you're single, being single also means that you're the only one taking care of you. Everything is on you, and that makes you more accountable for your actions.
Having full control of your decisions is a double-edged sword. While being free to make your own plans without having to consider anyone else is great, it also makes you solely responsible for the outcomes of your choices. Of course, you can always ask your family and friends for advice, but not having anyone else constantly weigh in means that the consequences are on you.
- It Makes You Realize You're Capable Of Doing Anything You Want, Even Things You Don't Like
Being single means you might have to get comfortable doing annoying things that would be easier with another person. For example, if you're at a social event where you don't know anyone, you're forced to make good conversation and socialize by yourself. This also applies to more unpleasant situations, like killing bugs, building furniture, etc. Although there’s no doubt it’s nice to have someone to help you, being single can force you to do those things yourself and teach you to stand on your own two feet when you need to.
- You Learn To Enjoy Your Alone Time
Instead of fearing the silence around you, being single gives you the opportunity to really bask in your solitude and appreciate it. You quickly realize that you don't need anyone else around to have a good time. Going through something rough? Not having anyone around to make you feel better or distract you pushes you to learn to console yourself, whether that's a marathon Netflix session or a good cry. Learning how to be there for yourself when you don't have a regular partner to do that for you can make you a much stronger person.
Of course, you can always lean on your family and friends during hard times — that's what they're there for! — but being single can help you realize that you don't always need anyone else, and that's invaluable.
- You Have A Clearer Vision Of What You Want Your Future To Look Like
When you're able to pursue the things you want without hesitation, it gives you a clearer vision of what you want your future to look like, because there's no one else to consider in the process. Spending time single lets you envision what you want, without anyone else's input. And this can help you actually take the steps to make your goals happen more quickly. Plus, when you're clear about what you want for yourself, you can better convey that to a partner if or when you get into a serious relationship in the future.
- You Get To Know Your Body Really Well
Being single doesn't mean that you don't have regular sex. Whether you have a regular sexual partner when you're single or not, being single gives you more opportunities (and responsibility) to explore your own body on your own time and determine exactly the kind of pleasure you want and how you want it. This allows you to learn more about yourself, to learn how to vocalize what you want in the bedroom, and as a result, you may find it easier to talk about sex with another person, or a future boyfriend/girlfriend.